My real education in this area came when I was on the board of the SIDS Alliance of The Carolinas, back in the mid-1990’s.
City of the dead
This is about when kids die, but is easily translated to all age groups. Thanks to Caleb.
Sometimes it is better to show up and keep quiet.
A Simple, Village Undertaker 
#6, 19 are the ones that I hear most along with: “You should just give up, you will never get any information from the coroner, police, DA,………”. So far ‘they’ have been correct, but I will never give up. Losing a child is a grief like no other. We expect to outlive our parents, and even some siblings – NOT OUR CHILDREN.
God bless you and thank you for this post – it is needed and should be repeated – often.
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